One of my favorite parts of writing a wedding ceremony for my couples is the process of sitting down and getting to know them. I prefer to meet couples at my home in Staten Island, NY. My apartment is really comfortable and has a beautifully relaxing energy, I'm a Taurus so domestic bliss is kind of my thing. I come prepared with a list of questions ranging from what each persons' spiritual beliefs are, how the couple met, what they love most about each other, they're strengths as a team, and of course we go over all the "wheres, whens, and hows." Typically this takes about an hour (sometimes two if the conversations are great!) and then once I'm finished I'll ask my couples what questions they have for me. Some couples have come prepared with everything but a Powerpoint presentation of queries for me and other times I'll get the "dear in headlights" look. It's perfectly understandable, most couples have never shopped for a minister before! If you're religious you go to your respective house of worship, it's that easy. What about couples who don't necessarily subscribe to a particular belief system, or couples who are on completely different spiritual paths? How do they ensure they find a wedding officiant who meshes well with them? Here are ten great suggestions of what you can ask your officiant to make sure that you're all a great fit for each other.
1. What is your spiritual background and upbringing?
2. What's the most moving wedding you've ever celebrated?
3. How have you handled a difficult family member?
4. When meeting a couple what do you look for and have you found it in us?
5. What will the structure of our ceremony be like? What will happen and in what order?
6. How will you be dressed?
7. What was the biggest mistake you made at a wedding?
8. How many meetings will we have? Will you be you available for questions that may arise and how can we get in touch with you?
9. Can we chose our own readings/write our own vows?
10. What do you love most about officiating weddings?